The objective this week is spending time picking apart the different effects of social media “overdose” and the reasoning behind me choosing the term “suicidal” as it relates to social media.
Last week I broke down the what, how, and why of my perspective, so now that you have a better understanding, let’s talk about who you need to unfollow/block, mute, etc., to create a more positive atmosphere on your feed; when to decide it’s time for a break or time to make some alterations to your social media settings, and where your state of mind should be when it comes to the importance of social media self-discipline. Let’s dig in!
While using social media, you might as well make it how you want, and unfollow/block anyone that isn’t suitable to your progression and peace of mind. So who should you unfollow, block, and/or delete? The answer is simple: NEGATIVITY! But to take it a step further; ex’s, friends and family of ex’s, toxic people you’re no longer friends with, and just any type of nonsense that disturbs you. Get rid of it! Stuff like that can ruin your train of thought, it could trigger something that may cause you to go to a dark place, or it could simply just get on your nerves, and ain’t nobody got time for that! If you don’t want to unfriend them, you can simply unfollow or mute them and never have to see the foolishness again. Isn’t that just lovely? But don’t forget to replace the negative with positive. Follow some people who inspire you and give you hope! Don’t deprive yourself of what’s good for you.
How do you know when it’s time for a break from social media? When you don’t get things done because you’re too busy scrolling. That’s one way to know. Also, if you find that it changes your mood. Does it give you an attitude? Does it dampen your positive outlook on certain things? Does it cause you to become numb to the importance of what’s going on in the world around you, because almost all things tragic are just a click away? Sadly, just about anything can be posted on social media and if your brain is set up anything like mine, once you see it, you can’t unsee it and it’s really disturbing, at times.. But anyway, on a lighter note, if you’re not quite ready to completely break off from social media usage, there’s other ways to keep you from constantly picking up your phone and scrolling, like changing the notification settings. Sometimes if we don’t see that someone tagged us on Facebook or sent us a Snapchat, we won’t think to open that app. You can also delete the app from your phone, so when you pick up your phone to go to that app, it won’t even be there! The solution is, you probably won’t even spend time re-downloading, and logging in, just to scroll. 🤷🏽♀️
The problem is, we feel like we need social media. Like, we’re missing out on life, like we’re not included, if we don’t remain active, but depending on where your state of mind is, or how your self-discipline is set up, it may be best if you just chill for a while, and not even entertain the petty side of you, or the insecure, lonely, and procrastinating side of you, because in all honesty, that’s what it is. The pettiness comes from us posting things just for a certain someone to see and feel some type of way about it, right? When we’re insecure and lonely, we post things for attention, and/or acceptance, so you find yourself sharing intimate or vulnerable things about yourself that you later regret and want to delete, but the world-wide web neverrr forgets honey, so you might as well not post that thing at all, and deal with your problems in private! Plus, some people really don’t care, and they feed off of your weaknesses. They may say they’re praying for you, while really preying on you, and hoping your situation doesn’t get any better for the benefit of them having something to talk about!
So, the point of all this is to inform you that social media can be suicide to your dreams and aspirations! It can be suicide to your relationship, friendships, even your job! We find ourselves not pursuing something just because social media says we can’t or there’s already so many other people doing that same thing, so now we’re insecure; second guessing our own gifts. We slide in people’s dm’s knowing we have a commitment with someone else. We even sabotage our chances of getting a good job, because of what we post on social media! Please.. pay attention to where you are mentally and emotionally, so that you don’t turn to social media to vent or to consume contamination. We often wonder why we go and look for a fix, but then end up feeling even more empty; it’s because we fill ourselves up with the world’s wisdom, instead of God’s. Remember Psalm 55:22.. Cast your cares on The Lord and He will take care of you..
I pray you love on yourself this week. Search yourself and figure out what areas you can do better in, then do what it takes to put forth the effort of being the best you, you can be!