Have you ever said to God if you just give me a whole new heart I won’t hate this person or I won’t be naive for him/her anymore. I won’t resent this person, or be bitter because of this situation. I won’t act this way, etc? IF SO, I’m gonna need you to focus less on your heart & more on your head!
Your heart remembers how it felt, but your head stores what was said & how it all went down.
Some ppl say “Yeah, I forgive but I’ll never forget.” You CAN forget! & you can do so by choosing NOT to allow those tormenting thoughts to take residence in your mind! It’s bad enough that your heart is broken, but you wanna hold on to the memories too?! 🤦🏽♀️ that’s our problem. We want to reminisce so much on “history” that we have with someone, but what is that doing for our health?! What is that adding to the present?! No need for me to go into detail. Let’s get down to these TIPS. ✍🏽
You have to first GET RID of the source that’s causing you pain. It doesn’t matter if it’s drama with family, an ex, THEIR family, a current relationship, a job, a teddy bear, prom pictures, love letters, text messages, certain social gatherings, social media, whatever! How do you expect to get rid of the pain if you’re still holding onto/entertaining it? You may not look at it this way, but one day, while you’re minding your own business, you’re gonna entertain the smallest thing, one thought is gonna lead to another & next thing you know, you done relapsed & overdosed on memories that amount to absolutely NOTHING, TODAY. Now you depressed! (Sounds a bit dramatic, but that’s how it is lol) seriously, let that hurt go!
Moving right along to the second tip, after you’ve gotten rid of it, you have to now, OCCUPY that space with something positive, because everyone knows that an idle mind is the devil’s playground. Don’t just throw it out & mope over it, celebrate! Treat yourself with a new book, some daily inspirational quotes, make yourself a vision board, stick some encouraging scriptures on the wall. Most importantly, AVOID all people/places/things that will cause you to revisit that place of hurt!
Lastly, now that it’s out with the old & IN with the new ✨💁🏽♀️ DO WHAT MAKES YOU HAPPY! & I don’t mean try & make it look like you’re happy, but be happy forreal! Whatever brings you joy, it doesn’t matter how big or small. LOVE ON YOU! Take care of yourself & your mental health. DEMAND peace in your life & do whatever it takes to protect it. Explain yourself to no one. Do you boo boo. 😘 (ALL in the name of love & respect though. Let’s not get too carried away. Don’t need anybody out here looking crazy 😂) anyway, I hope this helped someone! I’m gonna leave you with this scripture:
“I pray that God, the SOURCE of hope, will fill you completely with joy and peace, because you trust in Him. Then you will overflow with confident hope through the POWER of The Holy Spirit.”
Romans 15:13 🦋